Guy#25: Mr. “Married to my girlfriend...or sister”
This is the kind of guy that can break up friendships and cause conflict among family. He’s involved with your sister of one of your girlfriends (usually your closet one) and if they’re just dating they’ll eventually get married. It’s not surprising that your sister or girlfriend ended up with this guy. She has always had better luck with men than you do. You can think as far back as grade school and she had a cute little boy that all the other girls liked chasing her (playing “hide and go get it”) through the playground.
I hate to go there but there are several things that may explain why she has so much better luck with men than you do. Maybe she’s more attractive. I’m not saying that you’re an ugly ducking but no matter how much you hate to admit it your sister or girlfriend might simply be a beautiful swan! Maybe she’s more friendly and outgoing than you are. She just has an overall better attitude than you do. She’s “approachable” and talkative and you’re “stand-off-ish”, or you give a “you better not say shit to me” vibe and are more confrontational than “engaging” when it comes to conversation.
Now what makes you the way you are and her the way she is?
Well, your harsh dealings with men have a lot to do with your past experiences with them. To be frank, you have been screwed over, figuratively and literally by men. You have nothing but bad memories of relationships from your past and therefore, justifiably so, you’re very cautious about meeting men and becoming involved. You don’t want to be hurt again. Understood. Meanwhile, your sister or girlfriend has had positive memorable relationships that may have soured at some point but didn’t end bitter. And now she’s involved with a brotha (or a guy from another race) who seems to be “the one” while you're single, not seeing anyone special exclusively, instead dating a bunch of losers!
You have to be honest and ask yourself:
Do I make good judgments when it comes to men?
Shit, I’ll answer the question for you...
Hell no!!
Your girlfriend’s man treats her like a queen. The guys you date treat you like dirt. Her man is handsome and successful. The guys you date are average (or worst) and even if they’re handsome they’re not successful. They often lack ambition altogether. She and her man may live in a nice neighborhood and drive nice cars while the guys you deal with are still slummin’ it; walking, catching the bus or driving “lemons” with no desire to get out of the ‘hood.
Her man wines and dines her, takes her on weekend getaways and summer vacations while the brothas you see take you on dates to McDonald’s and Popeye’s and thinks going to outlet malls (to window shop) is a “trip”. Her man buys her nice things; designer clothes, shoes, jewelry, etc. The guys you’ve been involved with either don’t buy you anything ever (including your birthday, Valentine’s Day, Christmas) or gives you cheap ass “Wal-Mart” type of gifts that he was better off leaving in the store!
Her man is faithful (or does a hell of a job of fooling everyone that he is) and the men you’ve been involved with are playas, dogs, straight up “Super Hoes” (remember that Boogie Down Productions joint?) who will practically screw another chick right in front of you if you turned your head for 5 minutes!
I could go on, but, basically, your sister or girlfriend is involved with a King while you’ve had bad experiences throughout the years with the kind of guys profiled on this blog!
It’s likely that you’re jealous of your sister or girlfriend (or both!) and your jealousy causes tension in your relationship with her. I don’t mean to call sistas out but there are some of you reading this blog that are guilty of having an affair with your sister or girlfriend’s (or both!) man. And those of you who haven’t have definitely thought about it! Don’t feel bad (then again maybe you should feel bad) but remember, just because you’ve slept with him doesn’t mean that he’s going to leave her to be with you. The mere fact of the affair means that you and he are going to do all you both can to keep the affair a secret (if yal have any common sense).
So if you’re fooling around with Mr. “Married to my girlfriend” (don’t get caught) or you’re jealous and wish he was your man, keep dreaming because your sister or girlfriend ain’t a fool and only a fool with let go of a man like him!
I hate to go there but there are several things that may explain why she has so much better luck with men than you do. Maybe she’s more attractive. I’m not saying that you’re an ugly ducking but no matter how much you hate to admit it your sister or girlfriend might simply be a beautiful swan! Maybe she’s more friendly and outgoing than you are. She just has an overall better attitude than you do. She’s “approachable” and talkative and you’re “stand-off-ish”, or you give a “you better not say shit to me” vibe and are more confrontational than “engaging” when it comes to conversation.
Now what makes you the way you are and her the way she is?
Well, your harsh dealings with men have a lot to do with your past experiences with them. To be frank, you have been screwed over, figuratively and literally by men. You have nothing but bad memories of relationships from your past and therefore, justifiably so, you’re very cautious about meeting men and becoming involved. You don’t want to be hurt again. Understood. Meanwhile, your sister or girlfriend has had positive memorable relationships that may have soured at some point but didn’t end bitter. And now she’s involved with a brotha (or a guy from another race) who seems to be “the one” while you're single, not seeing anyone special exclusively, instead dating a bunch of losers!
You have to be honest and ask yourself:
Do I make good judgments when it comes to men?
Shit, I’ll answer the question for you...
Hell no!!
Your girlfriend’s man treats her like a queen. The guys you date treat you like dirt. Her man is handsome and successful. The guys you date are average (or worst) and even if they’re handsome they’re not successful. They often lack ambition altogether. She and her man may live in a nice neighborhood and drive nice cars while the guys you deal with are still slummin’ it; walking, catching the bus or driving “lemons” with no desire to get out of the ‘hood.
Her man wines and dines her, takes her on weekend getaways and summer vacations while the brothas you see take you on dates to McDonald’s and Popeye’s and thinks going to outlet malls (to window shop) is a “trip”. Her man buys her nice things; designer clothes, shoes, jewelry, etc. The guys you’ve been involved with either don’t buy you anything ever (including your birthday, Valentine’s Day, Christmas) or gives you cheap ass “Wal-Mart” type of gifts that he was better off leaving in the store!
Her man is faithful (or does a hell of a job of fooling everyone that he is) and the men you’ve been involved with are playas, dogs, straight up “Super Hoes” (remember that Boogie Down Productions joint?) who will practically screw another chick right in front of you if you turned your head for 5 minutes!
I could go on, but, basically, your sister or girlfriend is involved with a King while you’ve had bad experiences throughout the years with the kind of guys profiled on this blog!
It’s likely that you’re jealous of your sister or girlfriend (or both!) and your jealousy causes tension in your relationship with her. I don’t mean to call sistas out but there are some of you reading this blog that are guilty of having an affair with your sister or girlfriend’s (or both!) man. And those of you who haven’t have definitely thought about it! Don’t feel bad (then again maybe you should feel bad) but remember, just because you’ve slept with him doesn’t mean that he’s going to leave her to be with you. The mere fact of the affair means that you and he are going to do all you both can to keep the affair a secret (if yal have any common sense).
So if you’re fooling around with Mr. “Married to my girlfriend” (don’t get caught) or you’re jealous and wish he was your man, keep dreaming because your sister or girlfriend ain’t a fool and only a fool with let go of a man like him!
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11:15 PM
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