Guy #28: Mr. “Infatuated with black women”
Why do white men get involved with black women?
Is it love?
Maybe, but the answer to that question in most cases is an emphatic “HELL NO!”
Basically most white men get involved with black women for the same reasons that black men get goo-goo, gah-gah over white women. Some white men (and other non-black men) who get involved with a sista do so not because they actually love the sista for who she is as a person but just because they love the idea of being with a black woman!
The truth is the motives for many of these guys seeking out a black woman have little to do with love and more to do with a fantasy that they have about black women in general. The fantasy is usually heavy in sexual attraction and lust. This kind of guy will bring all of his prejudices and perceived stereotypes about black women with him into the relationship. Maybe this guy likes our “style”. Maybe he’s amused by the way we walk or talk. At least in the beginning of the relationship, he could be turned on by your “attitude”. But to be frank, he’s probably just overcome with horniness over your beautiful, phat black ass!
Look, I ain’t no relationship therapist or anything, but if I could give my “sista-girl” educated guess, I would say that 50% of interracial relationships between a black woman and some other guy who ain’t black is based more on infatuation than genuine love and respect (at least on the guy’s part). And I know that might be a controversial statement, but hell, this whole list is probably seen as controversial to many (except for those who ain’t scared of the truth).
Bottom line: If you’re involved with a guy who ain’t black (and especially if he’s white), depending on his social-economic status, he may take good care of you, but he’s just one step away from leaving your black ass for a bigger black ass (a chick who more embodies his twisted sexual fantasy of black women than you do) or he will “go back home” to some chick of his own kind that would truly make his mama or daddy proud. And if that doesn’t happen, then he’s almost guaranteed to say or do something so blatantly racist that you either will be ready to leave him immediately or kill his ass!
So, if you’re involved with Mr. “Infatuated with black women” and you think one day you might actually marry this guy....
Girl, don’t do it!!
Is it love?
Maybe, but the answer to that question in most cases is an emphatic “HELL NO!”
Basically most white men get involved with black women for the same reasons that black men get goo-goo, gah-gah over white women. Some white men (and other non-black men) who get involved with a sista do so not because they actually love the sista for who she is as a person but just because they love the idea of being with a black woman!
The truth is the motives for many of these guys seeking out a black woman have little to do with love and more to do with a fantasy that they have about black women in general. The fantasy is usually heavy in sexual attraction and lust. This kind of guy will bring all of his prejudices and perceived stereotypes about black women with him into the relationship. Maybe this guy likes our “style”. Maybe he’s amused by the way we walk or talk. At least in the beginning of the relationship, he could be turned on by your “attitude”. But to be frank, he’s probably just overcome with horniness over your beautiful, phat black ass!
Look, I ain’t no relationship therapist or anything, but if I could give my “sista-girl” educated guess, I would say that 50% of interracial relationships between a black woman and some other guy who ain’t black is based more on infatuation than genuine love and respect (at least on the guy’s part). And I know that might be a controversial statement, but hell, this whole list is probably seen as controversial to many (except for those who ain’t scared of the truth).
Bottom line: If you’re involved with a guy who ain’t black (and especially if he’s white), depending on his social-economic status, he may take good care of you, but he’s just one step away from leaving your black ass for a bigger black ass (a chick who more embodies his twisted sexual fantasy of black women than you do) or he will “go back home” to some chick of his own kind that would truly make his mama or daddy proud. And if that doesn’t happen, then he’s almost guaranteed to say or do something so blatantly racist that you either will be ready to leave him immediately or kill his ass!
So, if you’re involved with Mr. “Infatuated with black women” and you think one day you might actually marry this guy....
Girl, don’t do it!!
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