Guy#22: Mr. “Old-fashioned”
This guy tends to be older; 40 and up. It’s likely that you got involved with this guy because you saw his age as his strength. You felt that by being older, he was naturally more mature and had more life experience. You believed that being with him would give you more stability. If you’re significantly younger than him, then the generational gap will be an issue in your relationship. Because he’s from a different generation, he thinks and lives his life differently than you do. It might be 2007 but he’s still living in the 1950’s! He’s supposed to be your man but he reminds you more of your daddy or grandpa!
Now there are things about old-fashioned guys that you might find appealing. As I said before they’re often mature and stable. They’re hard working and family oriented. They know how to treat a lady, right? Well, opening the door for you when you’re out in public, helping you remove your coat, or letting out your chair at the table at a restaurant are all nice gestures that too many brothas of today just don’t do enough of, but his politeness and respectfulness is only half of what he’s all about.
The morals and values of an old-fashioned guy can often clash with the lifestyle of a modern-day girl and the realities of a modern world. For example, you may be an educated, ambitious, successful, independent woman who believes that a woman should be just as driven as a man to succeed in all aspects of life including corporate America. But this guy still believes that a woman’s “place” is in the home, in the kitchen, to be exact, bare-foot and pregnant, cooking and cleaning and taking care of the kids!
This out-of-touch guy will put you through many-of-nights fussing and fighting over your empowering view of life versus his male chauvinist view on society. He seems to be critical of just about everything you do or say. He may be a religious guy that takes what’s in the Bible literally, applying ancient beliefs to his own life and expecting you to do the same. He feels that “the man” is head of the household and that the woman should play a submissive role. He’s a strict disciplinarian toward the kids yelling at them and beating them to the point of abuse.
It’s pretty much a given that this guy can’t dress, his wardrobe from head-to-toe is stuck in the middle of the disco era or even further back. Yet he firmly believes that he’s the coolest most stylish guy in the room. Because he’s old-fashioned that doesn’t necessarily make him boring. He might be quite the character. He might have been a fun-loving, playa, playa back in the day. The problem is those days are long gone. Now the whole “show” that he puts on is just plain ol’ embarrassing. He just doesn’t function well in today’s society. He’s a has-been; a loser.
By the way, though this guy tends to be an older guy, some younger guys are old-fashioned. They’re often “taught” this by older men such as their fathers who they’ve grown up around. Now I will concede that a young guy with an “old soul” is certainly more appealing than a “young and dumb” guy but all I can say is be careful what you ask for because you might think you want the “perfect gentleman” but then once you have him you’ll be turned off by his “caveman-like” views and bored to tears by his stale lifestyle.
So, if you’re involved with Mr. “Old fashioned” and you think one day you might actually marry this guy....
Girl, don't do it!!!
Now there are things about old-fashioned guys that you might find appealing. As I said before they’re often mature and stable. They’re hard working and family oriented. They know how to treat a lady, right? Well, opening the door for you when you’re out in public, helping you remove your coat, or letting out your chair at the table at a restaurant are all nice gestures that too many brothas of today just don’t do enough of, but his politeness and respectfulness is only half of what he’s all about.
The morals and values of an old-fashioned guy can often clash with the lifestyle of a modern-day girl and the realities of a modern world. For example, you may be an educated, ambitious, successful, independent woman who believes that a woman should be just as driven as a man to succeed in all aspects of life including corporate America. But this guy still believes that a woman’s “place” is in the home, in the kitchen, to be exact, bare-foot and pregnant, cooking and cleaning and taking care of the kids!
This out-of-touch guy will put you through many-of-nights fussing and fighting over your empowering view of life versus his male chauvinist view on society. He seems to be critical of just about everything you do or say. He may be a religious guy that takes what’s in the Bible literally, applying ancient beliefs to his own life and expecting you to do the same. He feels that “the man” is head of the household and that the woman should play a submissive role. He’s a strict disciplinarian toward the kids yelling at them and beating them to the point of abuse.
It’s pretty much a given that this guy can’t dress, his wardrobe from head-to-toe is stuck in the middle of the disco era or even further back. Yet he firmly believes that he’s the coolest most stylish guy in the room. Because he’s old-fashioned that doesn’t necessarily make him boring. He might be quite the character. He might have been a fun-loving, playa, playa back in the day. The problem is those days are long gone. Now the whole “show” that he puts on is just plain ol’ embarrassing. He just doesn’t function well in today’s society. He’s a has-been; a loser.
By the way, though this guy tends to be an older guy, some younger guys are old-fashioned. They’re often “taught” this by older men such as their fathers who they’ve grown up around. Now I will concede that a young guy with an “old soul” is certainly more appealing than a “young and dumb” guy but all I can say is be careful what you ask for because you might think you want the “perfect gentleman” but then once you have him you’ll be turned off by his “caveman-like” views and bored to tears by his stale lifestyle.
So, if you’re involved with Mr. “Old fashioned” and you think one day you might actually marry this guy....
Girl, don't do it!!!
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