Guy#16: Mr. “Really thinks 30 is the new 20”
There is nothing more pathetic than a guy who never grows up!
Now I don’t have anything against rapper/businessman Jay-Z but ever since he came out with the song, “30 something”, you have brothas in their 30’s (or older) that really actually believe that they’re still kids! They think they’re so damn cool! Actually, there has always been brothas with this mind set way before the release of Jay-Z’s song. Only now guys from the Hip-Hop generation have their own little “anthem” to sing along too as they live their lives blind and confused about what it means to be an adult!
And Jay-Z can “afford” to act younger than he really is. His ass is rich!! And he’s doing grown-man business!
Look, brothas in their 30’s are young. I’m in my 30’s and I ain’t no old geezer! But I ain’t a baby either and neither are thirty-something brothas!
As I said before this guy is a product of the Hip-Hop generation. If you’re in your 40’s or you’re a Baby Boomer, you probably think this guy is too young and immature for you anyway. If you’re in your late 20’s and 30’s you know this kind of guy well. You grew up with him. He went to your school and lived in your neighborhood. He was your first boyfriend, the guy that you lost your virginity too, the first guy to break your heart; the one that took you to your high school prom.
But a funny thing happened after high school…
You grew up and became a woman while he never grew up, remaining a naïve, confused boy!
See, no matter how old he gets, this guy resist growing up. He doesn’t want to change. His mentality hasn't changed much from the way it was in high school. He’s way too concerned about trivial things like being cool. He may be cool, but he’s not nearly as cool as he thinks he is. He’s far from old but he’s getting older and he doesn’t seem to realize it. He dresses the same way he did in high school or when he was in his early 20’s. His entire conversation is still filled with “Yo this” and “Yo that”, “That nigga this” and “That nigga that”. He may be a smart guy with a lot of potential but he chooses to sound and act ignorant.
See, that’s what happens when brothas start getting older but they refuse to let go of their younger days-they look stupid. And the thing is, the younger guys and ladies notice it the most! If you’re 30 years old and you think and act like you did when you were 18, something ain’t right. Period. But you can't tell this guy that. The way he sees it, he’s “keeping it real” when in reality he’s keeping it stupid.
Note to Mr. “Really thinks 30 is the new 20”:
Change is not bad. Change is good. Change is apart of life!
Expect this guy to do everything the same way he did it 10+ years ago. He parties all night. He runs the streets hanging out with his boys. Of course, like him, they all fit this profile. This dude is likely to be uneducated and unskilled with no future. He probably doesn’t work or has some menial job and many guys that fit this profile have criminal records. Sure he might be fairly good-looking and decent in bed (some will be ugly and awful in the sack) but the only thing that he really has “going for him” is his “street credibility”.
Wow! He sure can get far in life with that being on his “resume”!
I think not!
This kind of guy may be into young girls and looks at you and other women his age like you all are “old”. Of course, if I were you I wouldn’t care who this guy was involved with as long as it's not me! The bottom line is, this guy is an underachiever that will never amount to much in his life until he matures. He’s going to have to change his entire lifestyle and philosophy. But I wouldn’t be counting on that happening because he is stubborn. When you challenge him on his mind set and the choices that he makes (from his wardrobe choices to the way he interacts with complete strangers in public) he becomes argumentative and confrontational.
He doesn’t want to be challenged he wants to be celebrated. He feels that he embodies Hip-Hop culture (and he does) but doesn’t understand that just because he grows up it doesn’t mean that he becomes less cool; less relevant. In fact, the opposite happens. But this guy just doesn’t get it. And he probably never will…
So, if you’re involved with Mr. “Really thinks 30 is the new 20” and you think one day you might actually marry this guy....
Girl, don’t do it!!
Now I don’t have anything against rapper/businessman Jay-Z but ever since he came out with the song, “30 something”, you have brothas in their 30’s (or older) that really actually believe that they’re still kids! They think they’re so damn cool! Actually, there has always been brothas with this mind set way before the release of Jay-Z’s song. Only now guys from the Hip-Hop generation have their own little “anthem” to sing along too as they live their lives blind and confused about what it means to be an adult!
And Jay-Z can “afford” to act younger than he really is. His ass is rich!! And he’s doing grown-man business!
Look, brothas in their 30’s are young. I’m in my 30’s and I ain’t no old geezer! But I ain’t a baby either and neither are thirty-something brothas!
As I said before this guy is a product of the Hip-Hop generation. If you’re in your 40’s or you’re a Baby Boomer, you probably think this guy is too young and immature for you anyway. If you’re in your late 20’s and 30’s you know this kind of guy well. You grew up with him. He went to your school and lived in your neighborhood. He was your first boyfriend, the guy that you lost your virginity too, the first guy to break your heart; the one that took you to your high school prom.
But a funny thing happened after high school…
You grew up and became a woman while he never grew up, remaining a naïve, confused boy!
See, no matter how old he gets, this guy resist growing up. He doesn’t want to change. His mentality hasn't changed much from the way it was in high school. He’s way too concerned about trivial things like being cool. He may be cool, but he’s not nearly as cool as he thinks he is. He’s far from old but he’s getting older and he doesn’t seem to realize it. He dresses the same way he did in high school or when he was in his early 20’s. His entire conversation is still filled with “Yo this” and “Yo that”, “That nigga this” and “That nigga that”. He may be a smart guy with a lot of potential but he chooses to sound and act ignorant.
See, that’s what happens when brothas start getting older but they refuse to let go of their younger days-they look stupid. And the thing is, the younger guys and ladies notice it the most! If you’re 30 years old and you think and act like you did when you were 18, something ain’t right. Period. But you can't tell this guy that. The way he sees it, he’s “keeping it real” when in reality he’s keeping it stupid.
Note to Mr. “Really thinks 30 is the new 20”:
Change is not bad. Change is good. Change is apart of life!
Expect this guy to do everything the same way he did it 10+ years ago. He parties all night. He runs the streets hanging out with his boys. Of course, like him, they all fit this profile. This dude is likely to be uneducated and unskilled with no future. He probably doesn’t work or has some menial job and many guys that fit this profile have criminal records. Sure he might be fairly good-looking and decent in bed (some will be ugly and awful in the sack) but the only thing that he really has “going for him” is his “street credibility”.
Wow! He sure can get far in life with that being on his “resume”!
I think not!
This kind of guy may be into young girls and looks at you and other women his age like you all are “old”. Of course, if I were you I wouldn’t care who this guy was involved with as long as it's not me! The bottom line is, this guy is an underachiever that will never amount to much in his life until he matures. He’s going to have to change his entire lifestyle and philosophy. But I wouldn’t be counting on that happening because he is stubborn. When you challenge him on his mind set and the choices that he makes (from his wardrobe choices to the way he interacts with complete strangers in public) he becomes argumentative and confrontational.
He doesn’t want to be challenged he wants to be celebrated. He feels that he embodies Hip-Hop culture (and he does) but doesn’t understand that just because he grows up it doesn’t mean that he becomes less cool; less relevant. In fact, the opposite happens. But this guy just doesn’t get it. And he probably never will…
So, if you’re involved with Mr. “Really thinks 30 is the new 20” and you think one day you might actually marry this guy....
Girl, don’t do it!!
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